Reply #149: I got pregnant first time using the pill, condoms, spermicide and

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with a husband who was supposedly sterile because of a low sperm count.

Second time, I was using a copper 7, only doing it during the safe times,
and using spermicide and condoms.

I was being terribly careful, because I'm very strongly anti abortion for myself, not for moral reasons, but because I just can't bring myself to do it.
(However, I fully support anyone having an abortion if that's what they choose.)

I had my children, and I'm glad now that i did, but the years spent bringing them up on my own and in poverty ... (husband left me because 2 are handicapped,) were times I'd wish on no-one. I had no support, could not put them in care to work, and have a psychiatric condition that means I really shouldn't have been a mother without support, and I was an abused child, so I had no role model for parenting.

So I could be the poster girl for the anti-choice crowd, having coped with all that, except for the fact that I've also experienced what it's like to have an embryo taking root in my belly and not be able to handle being pregnant. I starved myself and wouldn't let myself sleep til I aborted, and nearly killed myself in the process. And I don't regret it. Some things are just imperative to a person, and trying to legislate about imperatives does nothing but make criminals of innocent people and damage health.

Sometimes fatally.