Reply #46: I get nailed

[mzteris]

just for asking questions or pointing out fallacies.

I TRY and understand "each side" - even if I don't agree with their actions. I think if one can attempt to understand WHY someone does what they does, you can make advances in trying to help change the situation.

I tell my boys, if you hit someone, don't be surprised if they hit you back. Hitting back is WRONG - and I don't want YOU to hit or "hit back'. BUT, if you've hit someone, you need to be prepared to face the consequences of A) the other person 'getting you back'; and B) Me.

I also tell them that if their brother hits them, and they hit them back, then THEY're going to be getting in trouble, too - whereas if they'd just let me know, I'd have punished only the one who "started it" - but now, they're BOTH in trouble.