Reply #82: We get it on the male side as well.

[HughBeaumont]

Like I'm some reprehensible, selfish monster and our marriage is lessened because I don't want to have one more baby.

This year or next, I'm getting a vasectomy; one of the chief reasons being that I'm just flat out sick of the questioning and the debating over my reasons for not wanting another one (I have a stepson). I'm in the mindset that both parents should want a child, not just one, and I'm not fathering children that I don't have the financial, physical or emotional means to raise.

I'm still trying to work out a plan on how to pay for this one's college while doing all of the other things that need to be done. Do these people have a spare $1500 a month that it costs to raise a child from infancy to early adulthood, because I sure as hell don't? Do these people have dreams and plans that they don't want to give up on just yet? Do these people think I'm just going to be swayed by their "you know you want one", "you're going to be in debt anyway, so you might as well suck it up", "aren't you going to regret it later on in life" bullshit? NO.

I have one child. That will be all. The earth is too overpopulated as it is with children we aren't going to be able to afford. It's best to just concentrate on making the kid I have the best he can be in life.