Reply #32: A few years ago

[jmm]

I was in a Dunkin Donuts when a guy asked me for the time. Now I knew he wanted more than the time because I was standing directly below a massive clock but I looked at my watch and told him. We started talking and after a few minutes he asked if I was Cape Verdien. I said no and he started to tell me how hot he thought Cape Verdien women are and after asking again if I was Cape Verdien(like I had forgotten I was :shrug:) he said, "Well can I get your number anyways?" I just looked at him and asked, "Do I look like your consolation prize?" and walked out before he could answer.

To a large extent I think most are born having a type and really don't have control over who catched their eye. Depending on their type they may be more likely to date people from certain cultures. I don't see anything wrong with that. But when messed up psych issues influence who someone is attracted to there's a problem. I have a running joke with some of my friends about guys with a "mulatto chick fetish" because we've all had experiences with guys that were more attracted to us after they found out we were from multi-racial backgrounds. People want to be valued for who they are not because they can easily be cast in some fantasy and treated like an object.

That article sounds like a good read. As bad as some of my experiences may have been I feel so sorry for what some of my Asian friends have to go through on a regular basis. I've had two Korean roommates and they would complain how they were held to higher standards when people realized they weren't the quiet demure bookworms people thought they should be.