Reply #145: No, it is a good point.

[rumpel]

Maybe, as a parent I am trying to push recovery down her throat prematurely. I am currently concerned about her now dangerous weight problem which is rooted in the emotional trauma. She dismisses all healthcare professionals and does in fact not trust or respect anyone enough to follow guidance, and yet she is longing for guidance.

During her early teens, (when she was totally out of control) I did come to a decision, that I can not interfere with her own evolution and learning process, but deep inside, it may be, that in truth, I wish to guide her towards self-recovery and give her options.

On the outside she is strong and pushy - a tyrant, but it is all a cover-up- inside she is very fragile.
It is probably worth observing her to see when the timing manifests itself to make a suggestion. I am a strong believer that a person has to want it (whatever it is) themselves.

tough one :(