Who here is caregiver to an elderly parent?

[greatauntoftriplets]

I take care of my 92-year-old mother. I also work full-time, although we employ a woman who comes for a while every day. But she comes later all the time and leaves early. I am not here, and my mother is happy to get rid of her for the day...talks too much.

My mother has physical and mental health problems (depression, anxiety disorder, agoraphobia and somatization disorder). Essentially, her trips outside of the house are to the hospital...occasionally to the doctor.

I have one sister, who lives about 45 minutes away and also works. She is not much help, although takes my mother on the occasional doctor visits. She does not have to take a 1/2 day or full day off work to do that, and I do.

The caregiver does less and less around the house, which means you know who has to pick up the slack. I'd love to find a new caregiver, but my mother is accustomed to this one and refuses to change.

Does anyone here have parent care issues? I'd love to hear.

It's not easy when the role reversal happens, is it?