Reply #18: Hoarding can destroy families.

[Manifestor_of_Light]

My mom and grandma were hoarders and it destroyed my relationship with my mom. She fell over her stuff, I got sick with sinus infections when I went to see her, it took me and my DH 6 yrs to clean out after she died, and there's still too much stuff here. She wouldn't let us touch anything when she was alive, and when I started throwing junk out a window, she dissociated and started cussing at me and growling like she was in The Exorcist. And she had no memory of it, which is how I figured out she had dissociated.

However, under the present guidelines in the DSM-IV, she would not be diagnosed as a hoarder, because one of the criteria is that the hoarding bothers the person doing the hoarding.

Mom blithely ignored her family. She had no problem with it and couldn't understand why we tried to do an intervention, which was useless.

Intermittent explosive disorder is real. I've known some people that randomly erupt like volcanoes.

Raging bosses are impossible to deal with. I had one that was a civil district and I quit. After I quit, he could not hold court because there were no court reporters in Houston that would work for him. He would yell at the clerk, or the lawyers, or me, randomly. He told one pregnant female attorney (who is now an appellate judge) that "she better not have that baby in HIS courtroom". :wtf:

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