Reply #3: i am caring for my dad as he dies.

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i am adopted -- and the same is true for my mom as well as my dad -- he is the most wonderful parent in the world.

in fact in moments of stress and exasperation with my parents -- i claim that i have perfect parents.

there is something about caring for him now that always reminds me of him dragging me in off the porch when i was naked and drunk -- and never saying anything about it later.

he paid for college -- at an expensive school in new york.

my dad was wonderful to my partner when he was dying - visited him in the hospital -- rubbed his feet in spite of ghastly staph infections --

he gave time every day of life to my ''baby'' sport -- walked him -- took him to the vet when i was at work.

helped me and sport when we both went through cancer treatments.

any way -- the story is long and joyous -- even at it's moments of anguish.

and because of him -- i am a fan of men in general -- their bodies, voices -- i find them mystical and fascinating.

and so while it's not fathers day here -- happy fathers day -- dad.