Reply #85: Is it different, perhaps, for women?

[BillSam]

I bet when you experimented you didn't head out for the nearest lesbian bar for the express purpose of having sex with a woman, did you? You probably fell into it one night with a friend. I suppose a straight man could have a gay friend who might give him a hug, kiss, and hopeful grope and call that a "gay experience" (I wouldn't) but if a man goes to a bar or bath house for the express purpose of HAVING SEX with a guy, that is not "satisfying curiosity" -- that's being gay or bi. If he never does it again it may not be because he doesn't want to -- there may be other reasons...

I don't claim to be an expert on female sexuality, gay, straight or bi, but I think women are more prone to "experimentation" in this regard than men -- maybe because of the feminist movement, the fact that women are more naturally affectionate, and other reasons. And women don't have to worry about that foolish "machismo". There is, to my knowledge, no female equivalent to the "down low."
And perhaps, in your case, you experimented because your Mom is a lesbian. Good for her!

But it's interesting that it took your mother to her forties to come out as gay. I'm always telling conflicted people in their twenties that they could think of themselves as gay in twenty years (hopefully sooner), but sometimes they scoff. Yet it DOES happen -- a lot.