Reply #4: I think that whoever she's attracted to is okay.

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I was talking to a fellow bisexual once, and we said that "bi" just doesn't quite cover it. My friend is okay with dating women and men, and has her preferences-she likes scruffy guys, for example, where I prefer clean-shaven/less hairy guys. On the other hand, I find women attractive, but have no desire to date one/be in a relationship with one/sleep with one. It's like...I can see a photo of a woman, and be attracted, but when I'm actually with women and being hit on, I don't find that desirable. But I love drag kings and/or trans men (they are guys, but have their own peculiarities and difficulties). I think that bisexual is really a spectrum-people like different things in their men and women, and that's okay.

One of the things she should think about is why. Does she like younger men but older women because she can't picture herself in a relationship with a woman her age just yet? Is she afraid of being an outcast because of a relationship with a woman? I think that those are things that are important to be thought about and understood.

I wish her luck!