Reply #71: Stories like this make me SOOOOO angry

[DeposeTheBoyKing]

I keep thinking of a song I heard on "Boston Public" once - "You Have To Be Taught To Hate" (that may not be the title, but that was a prominent lyric). That white little girl obviously had been taught by her parents or someone to hate - where else would she learn that?

I am white, and my husband is from Pakistan. He is darker-skinned than me - in fact, he's often mistaken for being Mexican here in Texas. He and a Pakistani friend who is also married to a white woman were sitting at our dinner table once discussing which Pakistani women were considered the most beautiful. Invariably they would mention wives of their friends who were the most fair-skinned. Apparently fair skin is more highly valued in Pakistan and India. I do not understand this, as I see beauty in faces no matter what color, shape or size they are. I was indignant at their attitude. Beauty shines from within - it really does!

My sister lives in your city, FrenchieCat - you should get together. She is fellow DUer Bullwinkle925. Her late husband was a first generation Chinese-American from San Francisco. She has been meeting men online, just for coffee and conversation. She met someone from Marin County and told him about her marriage and mine. He said, "How did two girls from small town Kansas end up marrying men of different races?" (We are from Obama's maternal grandfather's town, El Dorado, Kansas). While our parents were raised in a different generation (my dad was born in 1908, and our mother was born in 1925) and were somewhat racist in their REACTIONS, they never taught us to hate people of other races. Both of them loved my late BIL, and I wish they could have met my husband, because I'm sure they would love him, as well. My point is, Bullwinkle and I were able to rise above the narrowmindedness of El Dorado and enjoy making friends (and loved ones) of multiple races.

Again, I'm sorry your daughter had to go through that experience. White people can never truly understand what other races have gone through, and it really pisses me off to hear people pontificating about Reverend Wright when they don't know the FIRST thing about being anything but white. The poorest white trash has had more privilege in this nation than the richest, most educated person of another race. Sorry, folks - that's just the way it is.