Reply #62: Why change your status right now at all?

[Maddy McCall]

If you two are happy right now, why feel the need to move forward with either Lisa's proposal or with what you envision?

Enjoy where you both are--that you are happy and neither are going anywhere else with anyone else. When your schooling is done and you can take time off to enjoy preparing, enjoy celebrating--when you are ready--then do it then.

When you're working towards your master's degree, you don't have time to breathe, bathe, and eat. Put off all "big" or "emotionally laden" decisions until you get your degree. I barely remember stuff that happened while I was under the stress of working for my MA. Kid's birthdays, parents' anniversaries--so much happened while I was working on my MA, under so much stress, and I hate that I barely recollect any of it.

She knows you love her. You know she loves you. You know that you're going to be together regardless, so why not hold off until you get your degree, where both of you can be involved in the planning and all.