Reply #69: I'm going to give you very serious advice

[taught_me_patience]

from a 28 year old who used to have problems dating.

1) If you really are 0-20, then you need to change your strategy immediately.

2) Focus on yourself first. Women hate men who are:
insecure
boring
timid
unknowledgeable
Join a gym. Read the paper every day. Focus on career improvement. Get a hobby,

3) You have to play the game to be in the game. You have to get your foot in the door. Dating is a numbers game and YOU DO NOT WANT TO ELIMINATE POTENTIAL CANDIDATES.
It may sound shallow but you must dress well.
Dress clean while at work and funky and chic when on dates.
check out some fashion magazines and spend some money on new clothes.
Buy a nice pair of jeans and make sure they are tight (Seven is good at Nordstrom Rack for $70).
Buy nice shoes (I highly recommend cole haan).
Groom well and wear a nice anti-perspirant.
Unfortunately, a lot of quality women are bombarded by male attention. For pragmatical reasons, they have to make snap decisions on whether you are date worthy. Often, it ends up being based on looks. The whole key is to look good enough to get your foot in the door, where you can discover whether your personalities match.

4) Its a numbers game. If you are not on Match.com, then get on there immediately and pay for 6 months. I met my current gf on there.

5) DO NOT ELIMINATE CANDIDATES BEFORE YOU GO ON A DATE. Dates are for learning about people. You need to go on as many dates as possible. You learn a lot about people in general (and its a lot of fun! you can laugh at yourself after the bad dates!) Later, when you are more experienced, you can be more selective about who you actually want to date.

6) Do not act desperate. This has to be the biggest turn-off for women ever. Wome like confidence and intrigue. If you get a number, DO NOT CALL right away. Do not call right away after the first date (although, a good trick is to text message them after the date thanking them and saying you had a good time).

7) When on match.com, do not drag out the email process. I hear of so many people that email for weeks on end. Do not do this. Email twice, then ask for her #.

8) Build a repertoir of interesting stories, see #2.

9) Women like wit. Unfortunately, developing wit comes with practice.

10) Do not date women at work! Absolutely not under any circumstances.

pm me if you'd like more advice. I feel for you, as I was once in your position. Good luck!

taught.