Reply #30: Little acknowledged fact

[Brewman_Jax]

in the past, marriage was the process for the upper-class to create and provide an orderly transition of wealth and status to the next generation. That's the reason for the terms "legitimate" and "illegitimate" children/heirs. But, I digress.

This is something I've thought about for quite a while. Marriage, it's no fairy tale. I see my parents' marriage (going on 44 yrs), but hardly happy. Had my mother been better educated and the Fates been kinder, I'm sure she'd have gotten divorced years ago. I don't need help being miserable. To add, I've seen too many looking for the fairy tale, and have their hopes dashed when reality sets in. I have another friend who's just started the divorce process (married 3 yrs, 1 daughter).

I have no desire to have children; IMO, that's the only reason to get married. Being awakened during the middle of the night and dirty diapers ain't my idea of fun (I have a brother 8 years younger, I have worn baby food, cleaned dirty baby butts and heard cries at 2am. ). Also, there are enough live ones who need care. I did like being a coach, camp counselor, and substitute teacher. More power to those that can do it 24/7.

I find it odd in our society that being married is more important than the relationship. I don't get it. :shrug:

The way I see it, the more independent and self-sufficient you are, the better your options. You have to be complete within yourself; there's no one who can complete you, just compliment you. At least you know this well in advance. Sounds like you'll do just fine.