Reply #30: All the self-pitying bozos, yes bozos, who complain that women

[Lydia Leftcoast]

"don't like nice guys" are actually NOT nice guys themselves.

They don't realize how true the Beatles song "Can't Buy Me Love" is. They try to bribe women into loving them (or more likely, letting them into the sack for the night) by being Mr. Super Polite Attentive Gentleman Who Brings a Dozen Roses on the First Date and Showers Her with Conmpliments.

The trouble with self-styled "nice guys" is that they just ACT nice. Deep down, they're angry at women for not following the Hollywood script of "boy badgers girl until she agrees to take up with him." (There was even a thread a while back in which one self-styled "nice" guy asked why women wouldn't just fuck anyone who asked them.)

They chase the same women that all the other men are chasing, the shallow, self-centered types who look as if they stepped out of Seventeen or Glamour (depending on your age), and they're angry that the shallow, self-centered types go off with the shallow, self-centered men.

They don't want a real relationship. They just want to bed and then be seen with the babes. They don't have a clue about what a real relationship entails.

You alleged "nice guys" whine and moan about how women don't want you. Meanwhile, there's undoubtedly a woman who inexplicably likes you, perhaps the classmate who asks if you want to meet to study for the final together or the woman who says someone gave her two tickets to a concert and would you like to go along or the one who wants you to walk her to her car when there's a whole roomful of men to choose from or the one who reminds you a couple of times to come to her party or the woman who greets you--and no one else--with a hug. She may practically have herself decked out in green lights, but you won't notice, because if you're mousy, she is, too; if you're fat, so is she; if you've got acne, so does she. In other words, she doesn't look any better than you do. So she's perfect for you. But you don't see it, because you think that you automatically deserve a Hottie, and you'd rather be alone than settle for someone who is actually no more or no less good looking than you.