Reply #40: It's a choice.

[TopesJunkie]

It can be important to some, while not being important to others. I do think its bogus to feign fidelity, however. If you can't keep a promise, don't make it.

For us, the promise of fidelity is one sign of our commitment to one another as a supportive, holistic unit. We've chosen to reserve the act of love for one another as a symbol of the importance of the other and the whole. We've assigned a great deal of meaning to the act, and so fidelity acts a large, important link of our commitment. Others may not assign so much meeting. And that is their choice, as long as they don't pretend to make the choice of fidelity when they don't intend to keep the promise. While that is a choice, too, it is a choice of selfish deceit. In the end, fidelity is about the honesty of the relationship. And I don't think many relationships are going to fulfill their promise without honesty.