Reply #40: You are not unique, I spend hours with my SO dealing with her

[HereSince1628]

daughters's issues...failure to pay rent, faiure to complete incomplete college courses, failure to declare a major, failure to find an academic advisors...yada, yada, yada...

If I were paid minimum wages for trying to peel my SO's feelings off the floor, wall and ceiling I would be able to retire.

For _my_ SO the issue is inability to accurately define "love" and "committment" and also a general failure to see that daughter shares MANY of the same traits of SO tat drive SO mad.

For you, all I can say is that you are not alone. I can't presume to know what things hold you and your daughter apart.

My advise would be to tell your daughter that you realize that you both can get hurt feelings but that _you_ always come back, ready to help her (which must be some component of love or committment).

On the more practical side, I say drink your favorite tea and take a bubblebath.

I urge you to do something nice for yourself everytime that your daughter makes you want to strike back. In the end you'll get treated better and if you bathe rathe than respond you can't be blamed for provoking her. It will surely make you smell nice :)