Reply #34: Everyone's case is different.

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My mother is unstable, bitchy, and downright frightening.

I have an older brother who has completely written my mom off. I had always assumed I would be the one taking care of my mother. But no longer.

When she threatened to kill me last year it removed any guilt I may have had about this woman. I'm supposed to have her come live with me and then worry every night I could wake up with a gun to my head? No, I beg to differ.

You have no idea what may transpire in some families. Some of us are way more dysfunctional than you are. My brother completely distanced himself from both of us after my dad died, and my mom's nuts. I owe my family nothing.

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