Reply #31: i don't go anywhere with them where it's important to be on time

[pitohui]

i don't fly with them or attend concerts, plays, etc with them -- i accept that i can't make a chronically late person be on time so i don't make plans that involve unrealistic changes in the other person's character

i certainly don't take it upon myself to tell them how to live their life or that they must have a mental illness (OCD is a disorder, not just a party joke) because they wash their dishes more than i do

if your son has a problem w. his marriage, he should be talking to his priest, his counselor, his attorney, not with his mom or you are put in the role of interfering mother in law against your will

my advice is to stay out of it and if he tries to drag you back into it, insist that he instead talk to a neutral advisor like a marriage counselor

you have nothing to gain by getting involved and you have your grandchildren to lose if she gets pissed off with you

as for funerals, etc. let her get her own ride to the funeral, that way, you don't miss the event even if she does