Reply #58: Good on ya, Blue.

[Bucky]

It's never okay to put the kids inbetween an all-parent conflict. I've got an ex who also tended to roadblock activities when my daughter was younger. She also had a tendency to trash talk me with her husband when my daughter went over to visit her mother. Sometimes I felt like such a chump for not returning fire on these kinds of attacks--and that's what it felt like, direct attacks on me.

If he's going to say "no", he's got to be the one to tell little Malta "no." Don't let him force you into being the heavy who says "You can't go." That sounds really chickenshit to me. It's not cool to argue with him about it while she's around, but he needs to be the one who takes the heat if he's going to do this.

Is this time coming out of his summer time with her? How is it that he gets to veto your summer plans with her?