Reply #59: regarding #7

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I heard once somewhere that when your mind says 'always' or 'never' it's the 3 year old in you talking

children deal in absolutes so when your head tells you it will never be different or you'll always be wrong/sad/a mess it's the child in you that talking.

recognize it's not your adult mind immediately and remind yourself nothing is forever

it was very enlightening when I found this info and started listening to my inner dialogs and started catching how often I was in that 'little kid' mind instead of my 'reasonable adult' mind

same goes with other people you are interacting with, if they start saying 'always' or 'never' you aren't dealing with adults at that point and you can dismiss (or at least minimize) those comments as being divorced from reality in that moment.

it helped a lot.

I want to echo SPK's thanks, you post was great and it was thoughtful of you to take the time to write it.

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