Remember my friends, the fundamentalists? A bit of dirty D&D gossip.

[Writer]

So I was participating in my weekly D&D session this evening. Mr. Writer is our DM and put a lot of work into creating the adventure we're on at the moment.

I don't have the patience to dig up the link, but I wrote a long missive about my fundamentalist friends who game with us. You can find that entry in my journal. Anyway, I've had the male half of the duo in the past make snarky, sometimes mean-spirited comments to me during playtime. I always chocked it up to his misogynistic tendencies (he believes men should lead... always... even when playing D&D... and I happen to be a strong woman :P). His wife tends to be fairly nice but doesn't hold back from making judgments of various media programs, etc., that don't fit into the schema of her strict belief system.

Tonight she decided to make several very mean, snarky comments about my character (a ninja) who was busy doing surreptitious ninja activities that apparently she didn't approve of. The comments were so mean that my husband left the gaming session absolutely pissed off, even more so than me. I was angry for a while, but the more I considered her comments, the more I felt sorry for her and completely lost respect for the both of them. Also, I'm so fucking busy at the moment that what happened tonight is the least of my worries. Nonetheless, I felt that her actions destroyed any possibility of continuing a decent friendship. She was downright hateful to me.

But the question, of course, is why? Why would she act this way? I couldn't think of any previous personal conflicts or disagreements or moments that in any way can explain why she behaved this way. It wasn't even within the realm of her character, so it wasn't role-playing either. It was just spiteful. I'm not 100% sure what my other friends at the gaming table thought of this, but at least one noticed.

The only thing I can figure is that I am a strong woman, lending suggestions to the group, and they disagree with my being that type of person. That is the only thing I can consider when assessing this. But whatever the reason, I think it's her loss. That is the way she decided she would behave, and she will have to face the consequences of her actions, which is a damaged friendship that has lasted for several years. (Also... it's just a FUCKING GAME! GEESH!)

Well anyway... I thought I'd type this out, I suppose in futile attempt that my typed words may bring me clarity. Unfortunately it hasn't worked.

~Writer~