Reply #25: I think there's a two week period

[alcibiades_mystery]

after the ending of most relationships where you can see this sort of thing happen. It's the denial phase. If it goes past that, then I'm happy to call it stalking and harassing.

As for the other stuff, yes, he sounds somewhat controlling, but I don't think it's that unusual for a boyfriend who has just seen his girlfriend go off to college without him. You're talking the first two or three weeks of being apart, and everybody knows the relationship is going to end because she's off at college meeting new people, etc. The thing is doomed. So again, I don't see it as completely off the scales behavior. It seems typical, given that he was probably a controlling douchebag to begin with, and the separation only heightened the anxiety. I saw this happen a million times when I was in college with all sorts of friends. Stop pretending that the guy is Ted Bundy. It's ridiculous.

But all that aside, the main issue I was addressing was the thoroughly uncritical acceptance of the OP's description, despite her obvious bias. It's a sad statement on mob mentality even here, though it will no doubt be parsed as some kind of "community friendship" nonsense. The OP seems utterly incredible to me, and yet people have taken her biased position and even heightened it on their own. It's laughable. But par for the course, I think.