Reply #11: Sounds like he's controlling and manipulative of everyone in his life.

[jobycom]

I'm glad you are supporting your daughter in this, and advising against giving in to this guy. He's too used to getting what he wants, it sounds like, and knows all the buttons to push with everyone. That's a scary guy. I hope she's far away from him.

I had a girlfriend in high school who wouldn't let go. She threatened suicide if I broke up with her, turned people against me. She even called my parents once while I was on a date with someone else, and made them think we were still together, and that I was cheating. My father lectured me sternly on how I needed to learn to treat women better. Because of that, I broke off the other relationship, and wound up with the girlfriend I had tried to break up with. Still regret that. Later I found out she was seeing other guys even when we were committed--she even told one of them so many stories about me that he came to my work and threatened me, then she told me all kinds of stories about him, including that he had raped her. We came very close to a very brutal fight.

Bad guy. Maybe you should call his mom and tell her the full story. Please try to do so when you are not angry, and do NOT make it about her. Make it only about her son and why your daughter broke up with him, and about the concerns you have about the extremes he is going to. If you attack, she won't hear what you are saying, but maybe if you speak one concerned parent to another, she will.

Good luck. I think you are right to be concerned.