Reply #13: Yes.

[crim son]

Here is the thing: just being female is a strike against you. Nothing has angered me so much as going shopping for a house, or a car or a stereo with my STBE husband, and having the salesperson address the husband exclusively, when I am the one paying for everything. (sigh - when I had money, but I digress) I hate the talk on DU or elsewhere where a woman is judged as desireable or not based on her breast size, or whether or not she is "pretty". I hate all these judgements. But my response is not, cannot be, to call out every offender with accusations and name-calling. I'm not suggesting we all be humble and ignore people's biases. But when you're trying to change the society you're in, it doesn't help if we are alienating our allies.

I understand the frustration and the anger. I think the response should be more gentle. Finally, I appreciate the fact that you may disagree with me. Your perogative, lioness.

On edit: I'm trying to compose my thoughts while my kitten is literally trying to chew my kneecap off. I apologize if this isn't coherent.