Reply #51: Ditto and I'll tell you my thinking.

[EFerrari]

I've been supportive of my husband for twelve years. But his last round of exploding our lives brought me to this conclusion: There is a difference between being supportive -- even in unusual and extreme circumstances -- and enabling anti-social behavior.

Ripping people off is anti social behavior.

Hurting people who love and support you is anti social behavior.

Lighting out on your financial responsibilities is anti social behavior.

Abandoning your kids or pets emotionally, physically or financially is anti social behavior.

I can't enable that and sleep at night.

So, no matter how much I love my husband, he's never coming back here. If he manages to change that behavior, I might offer off site support to him. But until then, I wish him well and my door is closed.