Reply #15: Oh man, that's so terrible, RL

[supernova]

:hug: :hug: :hug:

Your wife sounds like an extremely mixed up person. :crazy: and you're too great a guy for all this shit.

I do hope the bookstore works out for you. That would be terrific.

And I hate to say this. But at some point, you're going to have to cut her off. (Not your kids of course) But in order for her to learn to have some independence and responsibility for herself, you're going to have to refrain from supporting her financially.

I did the same to my ex. I realized that if I stayed in his life, even casually, two things would happen:

1) I would always feel responsible for him. I'm one of those overly responsible types to the point I neglect myself and my needs.

2) He would never learn to be responsible for himself. He would always rely on me to clean up his messes, usually financial, ..... just because he could.

So I walked away. I have no idea what he's doing now. He was a high school teacher the last time I checked and managing to stay with it. So, he finally learned he could be without me.

edit: Your wife needs to learn the same lesson.