Reply #18: Good post

[skygazer]

I was 26 when I had an abortion. I had two kids already, was married and using birth control. My husband was out of work, I was supporting the family and our marriage was not doing well (we divorced the following year). I could not see bringing another child into the world under those conditions.

Contrary to what some people will tell you, the great majority of women who have abortions don't just use them as birth control, or not think too much about it, or think it's not a real big thing. Most of them agonize over the decision like I did, and worry about whether they're making the right one. Most of them are choosing what they see as the lesser of two evils and most of them are thinking about the child's future, not their own.

I still feel I made the correct decision but I also, almost 20 years later, occasionally wonder what that child would have been like. It's not an easy choice by any means, but I'm so thankful I had it. You were a good friend to those women, lioness - :hug: