Reply #6: a few different ways

[Wetzelbill]

at least for me anyway. I love intellect and passion. If you have one or two things that you are interested in and passionate about, express that. Intellect and your knowledge of that (those)topics will be evident. A guy who likes you and is a good listener will be attentive to something that you care about. At the same time, be attentive to what they are interested in, ask questions, laugh at something funny they say etc. So maybe you aren't all that passionate or interested in... say pro wrestling. Well, that's fine but if you at least listen to it a little bit that's a plus, because you show that even though you aren't into that thing, you are at least willing to listen to a person because you like them. Be wary of just listening though. Because if you let a guy talk all the time and he feels he has to push the conversation one of two things will happen. He'll either become a total boor or he'll get nervous and the conversation will go downhill pretty fast.

Other things, like maybe touch him every once in a while to let him know you're paying attention or that you appreciate him listening. Maybe a quick hand on the shoulder while laughing or something. Little things like that. It lets a guy know that you enjoy his company. Whether you want to sleep with him or not, it's effective to communicate that you're having a decent time. You did hit a key with the identifiable subject. That's why it is best that you are prepared to talk about yourself or whatever you are passionate about. Showing passion and intelligence about something is great for first impressions.

I'll give you a real world example. Albeit this one is over the phone but it still applies. I met this girl not too long ago and we've been calling each other back and forth for a few weeks. She's done two things that I find to be very impressive. One is, she thinks what I do is interesting. For example, I'm a writer, I used to ride bulls, and I have wrestled. She appreciates that I'm into politics a lot as well. She has shown interest in that and allowed me to tell stories and explain some of those things to her. Next, she started talking about her work with women's rights. She helped bring a Spanish version of "The Vagina Monologues" to Tucson, the first Spanish version done in the U.S. She also has gone to Juarez, Mexico to protest the deaths of hundreds of women their who were murdered by probably several serial killers, but it's a big mess because not much has been done about it. Well, I was extremely captivated by her passion for those activities. Totally impressed me. I loved how she was intelligent, well informed and had a real ardor for those things. So, yeah, maybe that can help you a little. :)