Reply #15: From experience: yes, you can.... BUT

[LostinVA]

That is best friendship, not a marriage. We stayed ina dying relationship too long, because "That's just the icing on the cake." Come on, that isn't true. It's very much a part of the relationship, it all ties together. And no, I don't mean only sex. We became bitter and angry and hurt -- and it almost destroyed us. Luckily, we were sane enough to say we loved one another, and always would, but we had to change the status of our relationship -- not to do so wouldn't be fair to ANYONE.

We';re still best-est friends, and are very much in each other's lives. But not as partners.

Sometimes the adult thing is to know when to capitulate, and to salvage the love and affection you have in some other, often just as wonderful, form.

It's tough. I've been there (sans the baby). It does get better. PM if you want to talk.