Reply #33: Yep, Male Ego

[iamjoy]

I think a lot of it comes down to that.

Some men like virgins because he doesn't have to worry that she may compare him (perhaps unfavorably) to another lover. Some men just get this big ego trip that she was "saving herself" for him that he some how charmed her or won a prize and he gets to play the big man and teach her 'cos she doesn't know any better and she's just so cute and helpless. Macho b.s.

But, I like to think most men are reasonable about it. Some men actually prefer a more experienced woman. Before we met, very young, my husband was dating a virgin and told her to come back when she had more miles on her. Not the most mature way to handle it, but at least he recognized he wasn't prepared to help her through all of the consequences. I guess some women DO buy into the idea that virginity has meaning and get emotional when they lose it.

As for religion, I'm a little cynical. Too much misogyny is (falsely) attributed to a deity.