Reply #8: Yes

[Deja Q]

Even when I was 6 I saw the difference between men and women and liked what men had to offer. Girlie bits did not appeal to me.

Puberty struck and I found myself attracted to men in a way I'd never felt. I didn't understand or know and it seemed weird.

But women never appealed to me.

Not until my early 20s did I finally piece it all together.

But women still didn't turn me on.

But recently, the last 4 or 5 months or so, I've started noticing women. The ones in the porno pics still do nothing for me, but the ones in real life do. It's freaky and it makes no sense. Maybe it's the clothing.

But you're right. Thinking about what you want to do with another person is the only definitive answer to the question. That is what you should tell him, IMHO. There is nothing wrong with experimentation as long as everybody involvd in the experimenting know for sure that it's just an experiment.

At the end of the day, I am still gay. I may have a newfound fascination for the female form, but what I've always wanted and will always want can only be found on a guy. What I am feeling towards women is not a true feeling, and if I did indulge, I'd then know what it was like and then probably drop all interest. That wouldn't be right for the woman I'd be with.