Just hung up on my mother--was I wrong?

[tjdee]

Poll question: Just hung up on my mother--was I wrong?

My kid has a fever, the cat has something weird going on with her eye (she won't open it), comcast just screwed up a bank account...my mother called yesterday to blame me for the fever, because my house is "disgusting" according to her, and that I don't have a "sterile" environment. My daughter had bronchitis in March, and pneumonia last November, so "the house is so messy" I keep "making her sick".

Then today she called right in the middle of my taking the kid's temperature--to ask if we went to church. :eyes: I said no, the kid has a fever, hello?! Then she asked if I was having a party for the kid (the b-day was over two weeks ago) and I said no. There were a lot of factors involved in that, most of which my mother was aware of before today. The party would have been yesterday, but I did tell her at some point before this week I probably wasn't having one. I talk to her mostly every day, she hasn't mentioned it.

But today she launches into "That's a selfish decision, not to have a party for your little daughter. Did you even get her anything for her birthday (yes, I did)? *You* didn't want a party, so she doesn't get a party? Selfish, selfish, sel--"

I hung up. Then I felt bad.

I mean, maybe I am just a selfish horrible mother who malnourishes her child/keeps her child in filthy decisions? and am in denial? Sigh.