Reply #16: People mourn their own ways

[undergroundpanther]

I would rather see someone who loves their kitty remember them in a way that gives them comfort and is important to them.If one person thinks eew than don't do it for yourself don't tell others what to do when they lose a pet they adore it's not your place..
The pet is dead,but the people who loved them live on and they are missing them.

Now people may go eeew,sleeping with a dead cat..but for me I was too torn up over it all to go eeew about my best friend. My cat when I was a kid was murdered by bullies.They hung him, When I got him down it was too late to save him...When I got him free I was totally exhausted,because the bullies were too many for me to fight.I was a little kid they were alot older and bigger than me.They beat the tar out of me,and I had to hide to avoid their blows they were throwing rocks.I was hiding in an old dryer with a bleeding nose and cuts when they hung him.I could not save my cats life by myself,I could not find a weapon to fight them with that would work. I felt like I betrayed my cat, it was awful.I just wanted my cat back. My best friend had just been murdered.I wanted him to be alive.I kept hoping he'd breathe,I didn't want him to be alone just in case. My home was abusive and my father a tyrant drunk so I could not just talk to mom about it.I was crying.I snuck in the house,late I fell asleep with my cat in my arms like how he used to sleep with me in life...That night I had a dream and he was in it and it gave me comfort. That morning I buried him,and went to school which was hell as usual where kids threw stuff in my hair and made fun of me all day but this time I didn't care about the teasing anymore .I wanted to be dead with my cat..who loved me and I loved him.

I still miss him.it's been over 25 years.

You never know how a person is affected by death of a loved one and how they will mourn.Don't restrict another persons grief because you think it is gross for YOU. You are not them.
I understand why some people would make a fur pillow out of their beloved pet. to feel the fur and feel a thin thread of connection still to the animal they loved...Grief hurts the heart like that. I have two photos of this cat and my memories.

I wasn't sure I should tell about my cat but considering the almost bigoted views on how people grieve expressed here I thought I needed to remind people grief HURTS.