Reply #2: And those are the kind of relatives I would disavow.

[Misunderestimator]

I would write them a letter and explain how you feel about the situation, but if there's no change, then it's better to not expose the children to that kind of blatant bigotry at all (by removing those family members from the picture).

I have a brother who is a racist and a homophobe (and a born-again Christian), who I have not spoken with in 4 years and that was only because we all converged at my dad's home after he had a heart attack. Before that I hadn't seen him or talked to him in 15 years, and I have no plans to.

I'd be livid too.