Reply #262: Don't let her hide out at home all the time...

[ms liberty]

avoiding everyone who loves her. I always thought my hair was my best feature, so the week it was due to start falling out, I cut it really short. It made it easier to take when it started sliding down (in big horrifying handfuls) my back in the shower! I'd always loved hats but never had the nerve to wear them out of the house, so I used it as an opportunity to learn how to wear them with confidence. I bought and was given pretty scarves in my favorite colors. Take her hat and scarf shopping now if she hasn't started losing her hair yet, that way she'll have them when it does. I bought a wig, but I only wore it twice. It was too scratchy and uncomfortable for me. But take her wig shopping too, if she wants one. Your insurance might even pay for it.
I don't know what her chemo cocktail is, but she may not be very sick. The doctors will give her anti nausea meds, but watch out for them. In my case they caused some side effects that were really unpleasant (headaches and constipation that even prune juice could'nt cure). And I was still nauseous all the time. Finally I just quit them and went the natural way of the ganja. That's what I recommend, since it also helps with appetite. In my case it also helped with my mood. It's kind of hard to be depressed when you're laughing, and laughter is good for your immune system.
There were times that I wanted to be alone, and I was. And I didn't want people staying at my house doing everything like I was an invalid. That may be where she's coming from on that subject.