Reply #24: understood

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Especially this: but we get tired of being treated like native informants or zoo animals

On the other hand, much as I inadvisably and poorly tried to do so here, it's damn near impossible for someone with no direct experience on the receiving end of anti-gay stereotyping and bigotry to explain to someone else with a similar lack of experience why something that isn't obviously harmful is, in fact, harmful. That's why I asked for the input here.

This is me now attempting to back out of a conversation I probably shouldn't have dived into in the first place...:)