Reply #155: Take someone with you...

[LeahMira]

You said your mother was at home during the day... can she come with you?

Is your son invited to this conference? He certainly should be present at least for some of it.

I'm sure the school people have some "understandings" that they want to come out of this conference. Go in with your own list of "understandings."

Make sure you know exactly what the school's problem is. Take notes if you need to, and when they all have said their piece, then you restate what they told you in your own words. Be sure that everyone agrees about what's at issue.

Don't let anyone intimidate you! They may be the experts in educating children, but you are the expert mom! You don't have to agree to anything right then and there if you don't want to. You can always just say that you need some time to think over and sort through what they have said.

Above all, please remember that this meeting is NOT a referendum on your parenting skills.