Reply #40: Hate to say it, but the nuclear family is not the most stable

[Tsiyu]

and never has been the most stable model for children. In my opinion, based on 26+ years of raising children, the best circumstances are when there are multigenerational influences in the child's life. They may be family or family friends.

Mom plus dad plus kids all alone in their little world lack support just as much as the single mom or dad does. We need communities that encourage family involvement, and more adults who take the time to mentor and listen to kids.

We need grandmas and grandpas and aunts and uncles and coaches and teachers and young people and old people to care about one another, not a return to the patriarchal model of Dad over mom over kids. That model sucks and caused a lot of isolation for women in their communities and has led to many of the probelms we're seeing today.