Reply #4: They see their gayness as weak and womanish

[Warpy]

and despise that part of themselves. They also project it onto women, and loathe women because they represent what they are ashamed of as seeing as female within themselves. Denying civil rights to other gays feels like denying that hated part of themselves in a meaningful way.

Most of the hard right monsters in this country have been deeply closeted, self-loathing gay males.

We could feel sorry for them were they not in power. Women and gay men are generally oppressed by them, but worse than the oppression would be to inhabit the ugly little world they live in.