Reply #97: I think you're over-identifying with the father to the point

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of forgetting that the child is a SEPARATE person with her own needs. She has bonded to the new family over the last two years and it will be a tremendous loss to her if she is forced to leave them -- and to leave the older brother who has been the only constant in her life. I know a woman who lost a parent at age 5 -- it's not something you forget. It leaves scars.

And you're also viewing the child through the prism of your political views, since you think that any child would be better off growing up in Cuba than here. I think that the country where she lives is the least important factor involved.