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Westegg (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 06:19 PM Original message |
A friend just asked me for a loan. It's killing me! |
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grasswire (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 06:27 PM Response to Original message |
1. tell him to ask you and your wife together |
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helderheid (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 08:02 PM Response to Reply #1 |
31. RIGHT ANSWER. You win the prize... of something.. hopefully free |
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pitohui (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 06:28 PM Response to Original message |
2. i've dealt with it many times and here's the real deal |
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DS1 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 06:34 PM Response to Reply #2 |
8. over react much? |
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Stuart G (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 07:36 PM Response to Reply #2 |
23. I would take strong issue with this........... |
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CreekDog (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 08:38 PM Response to Reply #23 |
36. The Stuart situation is more ideal than most loans to friends IMHO |
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laylah (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 08:16 PM Response to Reply #2 |
34. While I agree |
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GirlinContempt (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 08:53 PM Response to Reply #2 |
40. Just because you and your friends are untrustworthy |
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Roon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 11:20 PM Response to Reply #2 |
46. This is true |
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Bake (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 06:28 PM Response to Original message |
3. "I wish I could, I really do, but I just can't." |
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pitohui (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 06:30 PM Response to Reply #3 |
4. yeah but if he was really a friend he wouldn't put his hand in the guy's pocket EOM |
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Bake (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 06:31 PM Response to Reply #4 |
6. Another excellent reason not to do it. |
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Westegg (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 06:51 PM Response to Reply #3 |
10. Thanks. That sounds good... |
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jberryhill (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 07:07 PM Response to Reply #10 |
15. No, that's a great example |
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MissB (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 07:09 PM Response to Reply #10 |
17. Don't feel the need to say more. |
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trof (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 07:24 PM Response to Reply #10 |
20. What will his consequences be if you don't? |
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Westegg (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 07:35 PM Response to Reply #20 |
22. I gues it's "one-time financial opportunity"?... |
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trof (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 08:01 PM Response to Reply #22 |
30. Expand his business? |
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CreekDog (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 08:45 PM Response to Reply #22 |
37. one time business opportunity? |
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LisaM (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 06:30 PM Response to Original message |
5. I just bought a car from a friend |
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pitohui (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 06:32 PM Response to Reply #5 |
7. please don't do this |
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LisaM (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 06:36 PM Response to Reply #7 |
9. The amount I paid isn't nearly five figures |
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Westegg (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 06:53 PM Response to Reply #5 |
11. It's all cash, all right now... |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 06:57 PM Response to Original message |
12. my grandfather used to say " i had my money and my friend. i lent my money to my friend. |
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jberryhill (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 07:03 PM Response to Original message |
13. Saying "no" should not affect the friendship |
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Westegg (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 07:37 PM Response to Reply #13 |
24. I think you've summed it up really nicely! Thanks. |
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CreekDog (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 08:47 PM Response to Reply #13 |
38. excellent advice and approach |
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CreekDog (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 07:07 PM Response to Original message |
14. anyone struggling financially cannot afford to lend 5 figures worth of money |
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Westegg (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 07:43 PM Response to Reply #14 |
26. CreekDog, you're right... |
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CreekDog (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 08:49 PM Response to Reply #26 |
39. thank you |
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youthere (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 07:08 PM Response to Original message |
16. If you want to keep the friendship |
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Westegg (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 07:40 PM Response to Reply #16 |
25. Tough words but good ones... |
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trof (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 07:13 PM Response to Original message |
18. "Neither a lender nor a borrower be, (been there-done that) |
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CabalPowered (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 07:20 PM Response to Original message |
19. My own two bits, maybe discuss some collateral |
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Coyote_Bandit (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 07:25 PM Response to Original message |
21. Been there |
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pitohui (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 11:08 PM Response to Reply #21 |
45. "they see me as a resource and not as an equal" |
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Burma Jones (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 07:46 PM Response to Original message |
27. I had this happen recently, we're still friends but I didn't loan him any money |
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MissB (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 07:47 PM Response to Original message |
28. Isn't there some sort of online loan service that you can point him to? |
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Sequoia (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 07:54 PM Response to Original message |
29. Here's what you tell your friend: (get out your guitar) |
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greenbriar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 08:03 PM Response to Original message |
32. friends don't lend friends money |
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NNadir (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 08:06 PM Response to Original message |
33. DO NOT LOAN HIM OR HER MONEY. |
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JVS (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 08:17 PM Response to Original message |
35. Ask for big collateral |
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GirlinContempt (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 08:55 PM Response to Original message |
41. If you can't, don't. |
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Whoa_Nelly (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 08:56 PM Response to Original message |
42. Playing bank (or being asked to) for a friend can be an uncomfortable poition to be in |
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Rabrrrrrr (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 09:01 PM Response to Original message |
43. You say "NO" to the loan so that you CAN keep your friendship. |
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midnight armadillo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 10:48 PM Response to Original message |
44. Try Circle Lending if you must do it |
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Mz Pip (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 11:20 PM Response to Original message |
47. If your wife is against it |
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Wcross (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 11:31 PM Response to Original message |
48. If he can't accept "NO" as an answer he is no friend of yours. |
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