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My 11 year old son's Little League coach has been pretty damned rude and since I've known the guy who heads up Little League in my town for the past 12 years, I'm considering causing a bit of a fuss because this coach. I do respect and admire those who do volunteer to do this, so I just need some feedback to know if I'm being out of line here.
For those who don't know, I'm remarried, live in the same town as my ex. We share custody and are fairly amicable here.
First of all, my name. It's 2007 and there are plenty of kids do not have the same last name as their mom. Initially in his e-mails, he got it right. Then all of the sudden I noticed he changed it in his contact list to put my former married name (WTF?). I let it go, but in any return e-mails, always signed my actual last name in bold. The doofus still didn't pick up on it (or he's an ass trying to make some statement).
Secondly, the e-mails themselves. He will sometimes send as many as 6 or 7 per day, often just random crap like upcoming camps the kids can go to, schedule stuff we already have, etc. Because of all the e-mails, I don't check them quickly. However, he does not communicate much of anything in person. Apparently, the first playoff game was this morning which he sent in an e-mail yesterday (not on the schedule). Both his dad and I missed the e-mail (again, he sends a lot of random stuff daily), but his dad, stepdad, and I are all professionals with very busy work schedules (I'm a nurse working full-time, his dad's a hospital administrator, my husband's in school and working 60+ hours a week). The game today was rained out anyway!!! Still, he was rude to my daughter when she tried to take a message (she's 15 at at her dad's recovering from a minor orthopedic surgery she had done Thurs), was rude to me ("You do understand that playoff games are important?" as he talked to me like a Kingergartener when I explained politely that I missed his e-mail). He's supposed to have the game tomorrow morning instead.
He also completely dismissed my ex when he had been volunteering to help (with his job, not only easy to do balancing time-wise) once one of his buddies could help. He always puts in his kid or his friends' kids in starting positions even though my son is one of the more experienced players. I could deal with it if it were just me, but don't take kindly to people acting like assholes to my kids.
Should I say something to my acquaintance who heads the league or just suck it up? I'm not a meddling mom. I've been involved in my kids' sport since my 15 year old did gymnastics at the age of 3 and never caused any stir, but this is a bit much.
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