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Blue Belle Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-08-05 07:01 PM
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How would you feel??
After four years of working my butt off helping to build the business of a (now) successful physical therapy and fitness center, I've given my notice as I am moving to a different area. During my tenure at this company, I have endured low wages, an ever shifting work schedule, worked evenings and weekends (which no one else did) and worked overtime (which I had to threaten legal action to get paid for). I gave my notice over a month ago, and have stayed on during the hiring and training of my replacement (which has taken longer than expected). I've been very clear about the time frame of how long I'm staying and as to what day I'd be leaving - Wednesday (8/10/05) is my final day working here. I have Friday's off, and when I left work on Thursday, everything was as it pretty much has been for the past 4 years - pictures of my neices on my mouse pad and taped to my computer monitor, a picture of my boyfriend in a little frame next to the phone, an invitation to a friend's baby shower left on my desk, various other notes and articles pinned to the bulletin board in my office. When I arrived at work this morning, all of my personal belongings were boxed up and in it's place are the photos and personal items of my replacement. Everything that was mine is erased and her stuff is in it's stead. How would you feel if this happened to you??
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undeterred Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-08-05 07:02 PM
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1. I would be furious.
What they did is childish and unprofessional, at the very least.
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DeposeTheBoyKing Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-08-05 07:04 PM
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2. I'd be angry, too
Very unprofessional.
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bigwillq Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-08-05 07:04 PM
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3. I would be really pissed!
They had no right in packing your personal belongings. You should be the one that got to do that. I would confront this person and the other people involved in this.
It isn't going to change what happened but just so you can let out some steam.

I'm sorry this happened to you. It really sucks.
:hug:

Best of luck on the big move. :hi:
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Blue Belle Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-08-05 07:12 PM
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5. Thank you....
It really felt like a slap in the face this morning when I walked in... it was like, "Thanks for all the hard work, don't let the door hit you in the ass when you leave!"
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bigwillq Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-08-05 07:14 PM
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6. Well now you know
the move is for the best. See how things work out the way they are suppose to.

So, this move, it was your decision? I'm guessing it was from your original thread.
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Blue Belle Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-08-05 07:38 PM
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8. Yes... and no.
I've been looking to move on now for about a year. This is a small community on the Oregon Coast, and I've been commuting for the past year and a half 80 miles each weekend to see my boyfriend. My brother is one of the therapists and has been a partner here in this practice for a number of years, so when they opened the fitness center in this new clinic, he asked me to come aboard and run it. For the past 4-6 months, he's been trying to buy out this office (they have 2 offices) and break with his business partner, but the negotiations did not work out and he is leaving next week (he's been on vacation this week and last). I decided to leave after I knew my brother wasn't going to stay... and I've been job hunting in the area where my boyfriend lives for the past few months. I have a very promising interview on Thursday (the third and final interview with a non-profit that would be my dream to work for)... so I know the move is for the best - and I've been trying to think about that all day - It was just upsetting this morning.

I just needed to vent here at the DU!!
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gardenista Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-08-05 10:23 PM
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10. Oh... this explains a lot.
This jerk is just trying to get at your brother through you.

Don't let it bother you.
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gardenista Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-08-05 07:07 PM
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4. Some people have a very hard time with goodbye
Particularly if you are an employee they've relied on. They are being horribly insensitive, but you can take the high road and rise above.

It wouldn't be out of the question to say to them that you feel your replacement is well established now, all moved in, as it were, and you feel like you can move on a little earlier than planned.

Then get outta there!

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Blue Belle Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-08-05 07:28 PM
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7. The Therapist/Owner asked me again this morning...
If Wednesday was going to be my last day, and I asked him, "I don't know, is it?" That's when I pointed out all the "changes" that were made to the office while I was gone on Friday and I asked him if he needed me to leave sooner. I told him this behavior was rude and a terrible thing to do to someone who has been in his service for four years, and the least he could have done was have her wait until after I was gone to "re-decorate". He didn't think it was such a big deal, but then I asked him how he would feel if he walked in this morning and found all of his personal belongings packed up in boxes and someone else's things put in their place. He apologized for her behavior and then said that he didn't want this to make a big rift between me and the other employee... he then confronted her about it and she managed to muster a half-hearted, "Sorry"... then she turned around and asked if she could leave early today to get a haircut. Unreal... :eyes:

I've just been so upset today... I was so tempted to turn around and leave this morning.
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gardenista Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-08-05 10:21 PM
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9. Hmmm... sounds like she's not going to last long.
Not a very sensitive person in a field that requires a great deal of sensitivity.

Sounds like your boss could use a clue, as well.

Try to rise above and transcend their cluelessness.

I know it's hard when you've put your heart and soul into the place. Believe me, they will miss you!
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Blue Belle Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-09-05 09:37 AM
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12. Yeah... I don't know how long she'll last....
Edited on Tue Aug-09-05 09:48 AM by Blue Belle
Yesterday, she spent most of the day shopping for cars on the internet and editing the digital slideshow of her sister's wedding in powerpoint (she took the pictures). This girl is very young (19) and I honestly think she's under the impression that this job is an extension of high school. I've tried to warn her about things that my come down the pike, but she dosen't feel she needs to listen because all the systems that we've been using here are going to change after we leave. Her main concern right now is whether her new car has leather interior. She'll learn later what I was trying to explain - she'll learn it the hard way.

She's also made out a list of things about this clinic that she feels needs to be improved upon. What she doesn't understand is, she can make all the lists she wants, it doesn't mean that she'll get any of it (My brother's business partner is very tight with what he spends on this clinic - we get by on the bare minimum). My only solace is on the list of items she wants stocked in the clinic are "Protectos" (those sanitary tissue things that are put on the seat)... what she doesn't know is the plumbing system in the building is such that the minute someone tries to flush one of those Protectos down the toilet, the toilet will clog and she's going to spend most of the morning plunging a flooded bathroom. Welcome to life after high school sweetie... :eyes:
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radwriter0555 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-09-05 10:04 AM
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17. And the best part is, it isn't your problem! Walk away. Your time there is
done...

It's a great feeling actually. Embrace it. You've done the right thing.
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Old_Fart Donating Member (805 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-08-05 11:12 PM
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11. I wouldn't go back
I would call up and say that since she feels like your no longer needed you have decided to leave a few days ahead of time. Tell them, don't ask them, about picking up your check.
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Blue Belle Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-09-05 09:41 AM
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14. I'm actually toying with that idea...
Edited on Tue Aug-09-05 10:06 AM by Blue Belle
I'm here today (by myself) because, though the Physical Therapy Clinic is closed today, the gym remains open... and I run the gym. I'm thinking about coming in tomorrow to drop off my keys and pick up the rest of my personal things, and then taking the rest of the day to prepare for my interview on Thursday.
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sniffa Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-09-05 09:40 AM
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13. i'd thank them for packing me up
and then steaL something of theirs on the way out. :yoiks:
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Blue Belle Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-09-05 09:45 AM
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15. There's nothing I want out of this place that I don't already own...
though I have toyed with the idea of "accidentally" knocking this ugly pink "Betty Boop" paperweight off the desk. I don't think it would break, but should it land in the trash, I don't think it would be a total loss! :dilemma:
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radwriter0555 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-09-05 10:03 AM
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16. I'd be glad I'm leaving, and ask to be paid for those days and walk
out the door and get a few extra days off.
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