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Elder-caregivers

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a kennedy

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Thu Jun 23, 2022, 09:27 PM Jun 2022

I never wanted to come here.......I need it now. Husband is losing his mind....short term memory [View all]

has been non existent for a while. How do you handle it?? I’m a horrible wife. I yell, I swear, I say stuff and I can’t handle what I’m going through. I’m trying to be an adult, it’s not working. His mind doesn’t really comprehend what he’s even going through. He doesn’t get it. I don’t know what to do. He sleeps a lot, he tires out after making breakfast, he just isn’t what he was. I don’t know what to do. I cry all the time. I was supposed to get a total knee replacement Aug 3rd…..he was supposed to be my driver to all my appointments, he can’t drive now. Dr at urgent care told him he couldn’t drive anymore because he couldn’t say who the President is, what state he lives in, what his SS# is, or what his birthdate is. We went to urgent care because he was so constipated, they did tests, and all the questions they asked him they decided he couldn’t drive anymore, he had to take myralax to clear out his bowel. They did a EKG, an X-ray of his bowel, drew blood and did an MRI of his head. We were there for 5 HOURS. I don’t know what to do. He doesn’t remember stuff from 10 minutes ago. I just don’t know what to do anymore. I need mental help. I need help to handle him, it isn’t his fault, it’s his brain and I don’t know how to handle him now, he’s sooooooooo different now, and I’m damn near ready to give up.

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You need help of course and I have no idea how to get it, hopefully someone does. Eliot Rosewater Jun 2022 #1
There are multiple reasons for short-term memory loss Murphyb849 Jun 2022 #2
Not knowing any more about you and your situation than I read in this post... COL Mustard Jun 2022 #3
First and foremost: you are not a horrible wife Raven123 Jun 2022 #4
♥️ a kennedy Jun 2022 #12
Contact your doctor's office deRien Jun 2022 #5
♥️ a kennedy Jun 2022 #13
Please call your local Agency for Aging ASAP JoeOtterbein Jun 2022 #6
I am so, so sorry. Phoenix61 Jun 2022 #7
I have limited perspective on your issue... VarryOn Jun 2022 #8
This is the best advice. Trueblue Texan Jun 2022 #21
We miss one thing our loved ones are going through ... EmmaLee E Oct 2023 #27
Yes, HUGS HELP is the best advice. EmmaLee E Jan 30 #28
I'm so sorry you're going through this and you're not a bad wife. badhair77 Jun 2022 #9
I know your pain too well Moostache Jun 2022 #10
♥️ a kennedy Jun 2022 #15
I'm so sorry. Can you postpone the knee surgery? I ask spooky3 Jun 2022 #11
I am so sorry. I don't know how to help but you can't beat yourself up - you are not being a bad LoisB Jun 2022 #14
A change of diet and maybe medication Tetrachloride Jun 2022 #16
Please, please don't blame yourself Easterncedar Jun 2022 #17
Sending a big hug, and some comments MyMission Jun 2022 #18
I'm so glad you spoke of the stress caregivers endure. Trueblue Texan Jun 2022 #22
It's not his fault. It's not your fault either. Beastly Boy Jun 2022 #19
My Dad had dementia.... thecrow Jun 2022 #20
I just read this topic again.....and this really stood out to me.... a kennedy Jul 2022 #25
You sound like me. AmBlue Jun 2022 #23
A lot of what you describes sounds very familiar CountAllVotes Jul 2022 #24
Thank you. ♥️ a kennedy Jul 2022 #26
I really wish I had some advice for you... Hugin Mar 20 #29
My thanks to all contributors oasis Apr 6 #30
Yes, thanks MorbidButterflyTat Apr 6 #31
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