A cautionary tale

[laundry_queen]

6. It's not your fault.

It's really not. This is not something they 'teach'. For most of us, when we marry, we believe that trusting your spouse with every fiber of your being is part of the whole package. I was always taught that if you didn't trust, then you didn't have a marriage. So when my ex told me lies about our financial situation, it never occured to me he could be lying.

It's not our fault for trusting them. It's their fault for deceiving us.

They (gov't, churches, whatever) should have to require these type of courses before they will marry anyone. Seriously. I had no idea, I was very naive. I could have done something more to protect myself, but I won't blame myself for being deceived - that's on HIM.

So sorry you are dealing with this.