I really wrote what I did (about the SWM) because of three recent threads about gays (by one_voice) and one thread about African-Americans (by sheshe2), and reading the thread by the "other" Warren. The first two threads were really about the experience of those two groups, yet some saw it as an attack, one even called it "white bashing." I didn't want it to seem as if I were bashing anyone, simply asking people to look outside themselves for a minute and picture what it might be if they weren't the majority, and, in this case, majority refers to heterosexuals, not men, not whites, not the able-bodied.
I don't devalue the experiences of others, or I try not to do so. I also am quite guilty of being in my own little world when it comes to some issues. This, to me, seemed to be a gentle, non-threatening way to introduce it. So far, it seems only one person is accusing me of nefarious, backhanded intentions. Trust me, it wasn't even remotely a nod to the recent so-called "gender wars."
I know you are supportive of GLBT people, and many, hell most, of the posters here have been as well, which is why I chose to post it here too. I felt it would be received in the spirit in which it was offered.
Thanks for the anniversary wishes. Funny story, he came home and we were talking about our days and I made mentioned I was driving all around trying to get his gift. He said, "Oh shit! I forgot!" I can forgive him though, he has been crazy busy, and honestly, it is more about me giving him things, then getting gifts....though I do love me some gifts...hint, hint!
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