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In reply to the discussion: 16 Penn swimmers say transgender teammate Lia Thomas shouldn't be allowed to compete [View all]IngridsLittleAngel
(1,962 posts)Telling trans people, especially women, to "get lost" nicely is still telling them to get lost. And it's been going on here for a long time. Hormone replacement therapy for teens. Equality. The ability to use the restroom of their choice. Now it's sports issues. And what upsets me is how little difference there is between the stances here, and the stance of Tucker Carlson. Saying "you don't belong" means "you don't belong", no matter how benevolent the choice of words are.
Something to consider, seriously: Some of us are angry because we're told "That's the bottom line, because we said so!" The thoughts and feelings of people like me don't matter. When I or others speak up - whether we're trans, or just allies - we're ganged up on, talked down on like we're a 4 year old with our hand in the cookie jar, treated like we're clueless, and accused of misogyny. We care a lot more about ciswomen than they care about us. Period.
I've seen this stuff here for years. Whether it's keeping us out of your sacred restroom because of a made-up threat, or being told we should be thrown to the Republicans like a bone "to get them to be more willing to work with us", or being accused of "costing us elections!", we've seen a disturbing amount of cruelty here. We've been talked about like we're some sort of deranged cult. I've seen posts claiming the 41% statistic is a lie (some of us have the scars to prove it's not), or that people are trying to convince girls who don't like dolls that they're trans. We've been told to keep our mouths shut and our thoughts and feelings don't matter because Dave Chappelle is just so fucking funny.
I'm tired. I'm tired of seeing the same names and faces all over any trans-related thread. I'm tired of being told what to think and feel. I'm tired of being made out to be some sort of "threat" to ciswomen. I'm tired of "I got mine, so fuck you." I'm tired of trying to live my life and feeling like both sides have me in the crosshairs. I'm tired of separate but equal, and tired of hearing the same people people rant and rave about protecting women's sports while being absolutely silent over Kamila Valieva.
big·ot·ry
/ˈbiɡətrē/
noun
noun: bigotry; plural noun: bigotries
obstinate or unreasonable attachment to a belief, opinion, or faction; in particular, prejudice against a person or people on the basis of their membership of a particular group.