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In reply to the discussion: Adults that spoil kids aggravate me [View all]liberalhistorian
(20,818 posts)have them. And yes, it really IS different when they're your own and not someone else's for whom you're a glorified babysitter.
And you are not subsidizing SHIT. Those children will grow up to be your doctors, nurses, lawyers, accountants, customer service reps, store clerks, contractors you call when you have a maintenance emergency, workers whose social security and medicare payments help subsidize YOUR ss and medicare, workers whose taxes help subsidize YOUR services, the paramedics and firefighters you'll call in the middle of the night with a fire or medical emergency, the cops you'll call when your house is being broken into and who'll risk their lives to keep YOURS safe, the nursing home workers who'll keep you comfortable in your last days, etc., etc., etc., etc. You don't live in a fucking vacuum. It will get to a point in your life where former children will be subsidizing YOU. The adults who serve you now were once children themselves that SOMEONE had to raise and they weren't a fucking "hobby."
Now, I will totally agree that it is wrong, wrong, wrong for people to get on the case of others for making a very personal decision not to have children, one they have every right to make and every right to live free from judgment and prying. I also got that shit before I had my son and it always amazed me how people who weren't even close to me (let alone family and friends) felt perfectly free and justified to stick their noses in private business. But it seems to me that those who've made the choice not to have children, while they complain about being judged, see nothing wrong with judging others for choosing to be parents. And that's bullshit.