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In reply to the discussion: Dear white people, please don't touch a black person's hair....or anyone's hair without permission [View all]DawgHouse
(4,019 posts)44. It is NOT cool and I've had it happen to me.
I have hair that is long and curls in spirals. Twice I have had a stranger in an elevator reach out and grab a curl, stretch it out and watch it spring back in place. They seemed to think they were complimenting me on my hair because they would comment that they liked my hair or it was "cool".
It's weird to be touched by strangers.
FYI - I'm white, if that matters, but it's not cool to touch anyone without asking!
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Dear white people, please don't touch a black person's hair....or anyone's hair without permission [View all]
Cali_Democrat
Jun 2015
OP
Really? I've heard black women talk about this my whole life! It's funny because I have an unusually
bettyellen
Jun 2015
#16
Ask next time you're hanging out with a bunch of black women- because I've never heard of it NOT
bettyellen
Jun 2015
#64
I have heard the comment - "I wonder what it feels like" so I believe this post.
jwirr
Jun 2015
#125
No, that would be okay because... institutional racism. Oppression. Something.
SMC22307
Jun 2015
#133
You need to get out more, lol. And stop gaslighting people when you are obviously out of your depth.
bettyellen
Jun 2015
#17
"I'm sure that it's not a big deal to the jerk who's doing the grabbing."
Behind the Aegis
Jun 2015
#29
Dear Black People, I have never done that and never would, nor do I know anyone else who has or
whathehell
Jun 2015
#33
Was the OP about you? I thought it was about the experiences of thousands of black women- silly me!
bettyellen
Jun 2015
#41
Lol, if you think your individual denial is somehow relevant to the issue raised....
bettyellen
Jun 2015
#69
What baloney. Do you get upset at every PSA directed at humanity when it doesn't apply to you?
bettyellen
Jun 2015
#84
"Get help" is demeaning bullshit, and coming from someone admittedly ignorant on the topic but oh so
bettyellen
Jun 2015
#118
Oh my, I'm not one to grab a persons arm but I find tattoos pretty interesting!
DawgHouse
Jun 2015
#45
It's a known fact that unwanted rubbing of peoples' heads is a sign of socioapathy.
Warren DeMontague
Jun 2015
#50
White people arent used to being called out, period, let alone by a Black Woman
randys1
Jun 2015
#80
This is a manners thing. I have NEVER touched anyone's head without permission.
JanMichael
Jun 2015
#59
I still think it was about the hair. (Without information telling me otherwise.)
Snobblevitch
Jun 2015
#127
No excuses, but it sounds like perhaps diminishing mental capacity was at play.
ScreamingMeemie
Jun 2015
#120
How many old white men have hair-related "add on" as part of their vocabulary?
SMC22307
Jun 2015
#131